Growing up, I feel like I didn’t have many crushes. Mainly I think it’s because I didn’t know what a ‘crush’ felt like. I saw girls crush after their favorite pop star or actor, and I would play along without my heart racing or a feeling in my stomach. I thought that having a crush meant that thinking was someone was objectively attractive. I missed the part where you were actually attracted to the person, physically and/or emotionally.

In fact, that’s kind of how I felt about boys in general. I thought I would magically reach a point where I would be physically/sexually/emotionally attracted to men. Spoiler alert: it never happened. When I finally came out to myself, I realized that I had plenty of crushes on fictional characters. And they were all ladies.

I didn’t have the vocabulary to express my attraction to girls. I just knew that I thought that they were pretty. But in the days before the internet, I really didn’t have access to queer people or culture. The first gay person I knew was when I was 12 and my best friend’s older brother came out.

I didn’t understand why other girls were so interested in the Baywatch guys versus Pamela Anderson, or the other women on the show. Girls were so much nicer to look at.

As a kid, I loved watching anything science fiction related. Especially if it was Star Trek. When Voyager premiered, my seven year-old self couldn’t have been more excited. I loved Captain Janeway and how she commanded the ship. I especially enjoyed her interactions with B’Elanna Torres and Seven of Nine. I hated when she started fawning over Chakotay or her husband on Earth came up in an episode. I loved the way she wore her hair and how she was able to command her ship. That (spoilers!) she was able to bring her crew back home after a tumultuous seven year journey. No one ever questioned her authority as a Captain of a Federation ship.

Over a decade later, I realized that I’m a lesbian, and that my love of Star Trek: Voyager was emboldened by my latent crush on Captain Kathryn Janeway.

Like many queer individuals, I didn’t have the words to express my feelings toward Janeway. But looking back, those feelings were most certainly real. Because I didn’t realize my queerness until later, most of my fictional crushes were ‘hindsight crushes’. Looking back at my childhood, I could tell that my fascination with Janeway or any of my other female friends was definitely because of my queer identity.

At the same time, however, I start to overthink queering my childhood narrative. Am I only seeing my Janeway crush as a crush because I identify as queer now? Was I really just a nerdy child who loved having a female captain to look up to on television? Is this childhood crush merely a way to explain my queerness throughout my life so far?

In one respect, yes. I am placing a crush on a character when it wasn’t entirely there. As a kid, I definitely couldn’t differentiate between wanting to be someone, or wanting to be with someone. Since that line was so blurred for me and I didn’t have the words to express myself, sometimes I feel that I missed out on that part of getting older. Looking back and placing the puzzle pieces together has helped weave together a queer narrative and biography that wouldn’t otherwise exist.

On another level, I really just enjoyed watching a science fiction show with my dad.

I didn’t have words as a kid, so it would make sense that describing it through a queer adult lens wouldn’t fit exactly. As an 8 year-old, I wouldn’t have thought of any character in a sexual manner. So why should I discredit my warm and fuzzy feelings towards her? What can I say? Little Amanda found authority figures and uniforms attractive just like almost 30 year-old Amanda does. Younger Amanda wanted to sit and talk about the Delta quadrant and drink coffee with Kathryn Janeway. It was the first time I felt like I wanted to be and be with a character. Why wring my hands over the validity of a crush when I know my heterosexual counterparts never placed that much thought into whether their crushes were ‘real’ or not?

My name is Amanda, and my first fictional crush (whether I knew it then or not) was Captain Kathryn Janeway of the USS Voyager. Even as an 8 year-old, I enjoyed watching ladies take command and get shit done.


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Amanda Malamut
amanda.malamut@gmail.com
Amanda is a Philadelphia-based writer. She likes Doctor Who, Legos, 90s pop, any TV show that doesn't kill off the lesbian characters, and folk music. Sometimes people describe her as a hippie. They would be correct. She also writes for Geeks Out, Hello Giggles, and think pieces for her own blog.

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